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What Childhood Games Can Teach Us About Life

My son joined Chess Club at school this year, and really enjoyed it. This was surprising because as a young 4-year-old who wanted to play board games, he would throw a fit every time he lost. To see him growing up to a 10-year-old who loves to play a complex game where there can only be one winner shows how much you can mature in a short amount of time.

Now that it’s summer break, we’re enjoying playing more board games. He was teaching me to play a new game, and I had a “light-bulb” moment. While I lost the game, I asked that we play again. He was surprised, and said okay, so we played again and again I lost. I told him I really wanted to play another round to figure out how to win. He thought I’d want to play something new to see if I could win at something else. That made sense, especially when we think about life and how easy it is to be discouraged and give up when you first don’t succeed at something new.

We played the game three times until I won, and I explained to my son that life is like the games we play. We can get easily upset when we lose, or try over and over again until we win. Or, like he suggested, you can switch to something else. This reminds me of how we have different attitudes in health. We often go through the same cycle as learning a new game: trying something and winning (it works), then doing it over and over again and once we lose, giving up (health changes over time, so if we start to break down, we often give up and accept living with a problem).

Unfortunately, life isn’t as simple as a game with clear rules, players and outcomes. It is far more complicated, especially when it comes to our health. There are different methods of healing, different styles of living and different foods to eat. But, I often find myself thinking with the same persistence: not giving up, and asking for advice from those who have figured things out. That is how I found Hen Sen Herbs.

It is truly a beautiful thing to live in a country with so many health care options. Mind you, they’re not all supported by the health care insurance system, but I am so grateful that we have Traditional Chinese Herbalist, Acupuncture, Massage as well as the American Medical Association practitioners. If life were a game, I’d say we’re fortunate to live in a country with the freedom to choose how to best live our lives.

When You Should Talk To Your Ten-Year-Old Self

When you were ten years old, you probably never thought of heart-burn or high cholesterol. Now that you’re an adult, topics like this come up in the office or among friends. Everyone has an opinion or story about what kind of medical help or medicine you should try. Even the television and Internet have overwhelming advice and suggestions.

Now, many of us see a doctor or health are practitioner before seeking someone in the natural health field, and get treated like a ten-year-old. This can happen with natural medicine, but often the big difference is that a traditional American medical doctor doesn’t spend more than 15 minutes with a patient and will prescribe a pill to treat a symptom that isn’t life threatening. A natural medicine practitioner like a Traditional Chinese Herbalist, spends time to really get to the root of your health problems.

When I hear stories from my friends and family about how they were ignored or suffered with only a prescription to treat their health issues, I think about how when we were ten years old, we were told to stand up to bullies. We were told to listen and respect authority but also to speak the truth and to start taking ownership over caring for ourselves. We were told to keep trying. We were told to never stop learning.

Now, I know every culture is different, but in America we have a problem with bullies. It starts in elementary school and follows us into adulthood. We need to start listening to what we tell our children about standing up for yourself and treating others with respect. We are never too old to practice what we may have told our ten-year-old-selves.

And, remember to be kind to yourself. When your health is struggling, and you’re looking for answers, don’t be too hard on yourself. I know some folks who feel bad that they didn’t find help sooner, but the truth is that we don’t know what we don’t know. The key is to never give up. Just like the 10-year-old at a soccer match, never give up on yourself. It might feel silly to see yourself like a kid, but it can be helpful and encouraging. Remember: Be Kind. Keep trying.

Who Is Your Hero?

Who is your hero?
I would like to start the year with my hero. My hero is one that inspires me, makes the better of me, kicks my butt when I am going the wrong way and centers me.
All my life, my hero has been my father, who is also my teacher. He has taught me to be the best I can and that I am important._
My grandma had the power of knowing. She taught me health and was not polite in her way of teaching. When I don’t feel well, it was my fault. Since both my heroes have passed away, I keep to heart they’re teaching and I will pass on their teachings to my kids and patients.
To the present, my hero is my husband. As I was pregnant with our third child, my fourth, he’d say, one or two doesn’t make a difference, well it did. Got only two hands, third took extra hands. He keeps me centered with a sense of humor and picks me up when I am down.
Life seems like a fairy tale. Each chapter is different. I see life as a series of chapters where we grow wiser and better as we get older.
Happy New Year!!! Make this a year to remember and be a hero to someone. We all need some inspiration.
My wish for 2013, is for us to build a stronger connection to the ones we care for with strength and compassion.
Live life to the fullest!