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A Hard Cold Truth That Will Change Your Life Forever

<p>Let me start off with the lyrics of the song “Let It Be Me” by Ray Lamontagne, one of my favorite singer-song writers of all time:</p>

<p><i>“There comes a time, a time in everyone’s life

where nothing seems to go your way

where nothing seems to turn out right

There may come a time, you just can’t seem to find your place

For every door you open, seems like you get two slammed in your face

That’s when you need someone, someone that you can call…”

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<p>Well, we all go through the time like this in our life one time or another. Sometimes it is a loss of someone who you really love, and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t get over the feeling of sadness for long period of time. Or you may get in a car accident and severely injure your legs on the way to an important job interview, resulting in not being able to find a job for a long time when you need it the most. </p>

<p>In other times one small incidence leads to a chain of negative events. And you can’t seem to find a way to end it. It may go like this: your alarm clock failed on you one morning. And you jump out of the bed, put on your clothes and rush out the door trying to catch a bus to work in time. You run fast and slip on the hard cold asphalt in pouring rain. Not only do you scrape your knees really bad, but also get splashed by a passing car. Now you are soaking wet in the freezing weather. The bus does not arrive on time and now you are really late for important meeting with a client for whom you have been preparing the sales presentation for weeks. Frustrated, you try to calm yourself down by listening to music on your smart phone on the bus. Then you realize your wallet is missing. It probably slipped out the purse when you fell earlier. Now you are angry at yourself, but there is nothing you can do except to blame yourself. Your presentation goes terribly wrong during the meeting. And you end up losing the big account and get fired for it.</p>

<p>There are certain things in life that you have little control over. Being at the wrong place at the wrong in one of them. Who would’ve thought 2 hijacked airplanes would smash into World Trade Center Twin Towers. My heart goes out to those who died in the horrible event. Natural disaster like 2004 Indonesian Tsunami or 2013 Japan tsunami are another unimaginable unfortunate events that claimed the lives of hundreds of thousands of people. Being a victim of drive-by shooting. Or getting struck by a lightning and the list goes on. It’s unfortunate, but sometimes bad things just happen to you no matter how careful or prepared you are, and in many cases they are not your fault. </p>

<P>But I believe that most of the events that take place in your normal daily life, whether they are good or bad, are the reflection of yourself.. I am talking about things like, having wonderful relationship with your spouse vs. going through nasty divorce, or getting promotions every year at work vs. being stuck at the same boring job, getting rich vs. getting poor, being recognized vs. ignored, being happy vs. sad, feeling healthy vs. always catching a cold, having supportive friends vs. being surrounded by lairs. </p>

<p>Whenever something good happens, we call it “Lucky”, but whenever things go wrong, we have a tendency to blame other people or situations. What I am trying say is….these events in your life are not coincidence. Thing happens for reasons. There is a cause and effect relationship between what you experience today and what things you have done in the past. In other words these are the direct results and reflections of your thoughts and actions of the past. If you are currently unhappy with your situations, you life must have been mostly filled with negative thoughts and actions. So you must reprogram your brain with positive constructive thoughts, and your life eventually will be filled with happy events. If you are truly happy and satisfied with everything surrounding you, hat’s off to you. Keep on doing whatever you are doing.

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<P>I want to share the little story (by unknown author) I picked up from one of the books from Dan Kuschell.</p>

<p><i>“A son and his father were walking on the mountains. Suddenly, his son falls, hurts himself and screams: “Aahhhhhhhhhhh!!!” To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating, somewhere in the distance, “AAAhhhhhhhh!!!!” Curious, he yells: “Who are you?” He receives the answer: “Who are you?” And then he screams to the mountain: “I admire you!” The voice answers: “I admire you!” Angered at the response, he screams: “Coward!” He receives the answer: “Coward!”</i></p>

<P>He looks to his father and asks: “What’s going on?” The father smiles and says: “My son, pay attention.” Again he screams: “Your are a champion!” The voice answers: “You are a champion!” The boy is surprised, but does not understand. Then father explains: “People call this ECHO, but really this is a reflection. I gives you back everything you say or do. Our life is simply a reflection of our actions. If you want more love in the world, create more love in your heart. If you want more competence in your team, improve your competence. This relationship applies to everything, in all aspects of life. Life will give you back everything you have given to it”</p>

<P>So whatever you do, you must ‘Take A Full Resposibility’ for your future outcome. If you are currently unhappy at work, stop whining or blaming your work environment. Change your attitude or work ethic and focus more on personal development. You will be surprised how things  will change for better. If you are the type of person who tends to get in an argument often with others, study human psychology, analyze words you use carefully and find our what tick them off. Instead start using the words that make them feel special. I guarantee you will have fulfilling relationships with many others. </p>

<p>I would even go so far to say that you can even avoid natural disasters (like I mentioned above)  if you take time to develop the 6th sense, intuition, psychic ablility or whatever you wanna call it…..so that you are informed ahead of time when natural disaster is headed your way. That’s what I call “Take A Full Responsibility”.</p>

<p>Remember your current life is a reflection of your past thoughts and actions. Let’s start making changes for better by “Taking A Full Responsibility”.</p>

<i>Kaz Isogai</i>